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The term ‘wifey’
is usually used to describe a woman who is, in a man’s eyes, of marriage material.
This woman is usually considered to be driven, intelligent and loyal.
Sure, these
qualities are great, and something that everyone is hopefully building within
their own selves, but the term ‘wifey’ definitely comes with expectations and
the attributes of a traditional wife: cooking and cleaning.
Whilst there
is nothing wrong with striving for qualities like these, or even seeking a
partner who resembles what a wife may look or act like, the issue lies in how
the term is used.
‘Wifey’
implies that women fall into two categories – the glorified ‘wifey’, or the
other, usually defined as a ‘hoe’. This brings us to the issue of a woman’s
body count. Society has the unwritten rule that being a ‘wifey’ and being
sexually liberated are mutually exclusive. In short, you can attain all of the
above characteristics of a good wife, but, should your sexual history be too
overwhelming for someone else to handle, you are now categorised, for many, as
the other.
But what of
a man’s body count? Usually nothing. Ultimately society has conditioned us to
believe that the same thing that can make a man attractive, has the opposite effect
in regard to women, therefore rendering her undesirable. Simple misogyny.
Should our
value and identity come from the opinion of a man?
Many of us
young women will aspire to be seen as ‘wifey’ at some point in our lives. Whilst
there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s important to remember how you are measuring
these qualities and what you are measuring them against. Do not let it be a man’s
opinion of you.
As women, I do
not want us to be wearing this term as a badge to try and validate our position
in a man’s life. Wear a badge to display your views as a woman, wear a badge to
represent the career you are working towards. Do not strive for a badge that
reduces you to nothing but the extension of a man.
Thank you for reading!
Aman
